hi guys.
yesterday i met up with this girlfriend of mine and we were discussing about break ups and it made me wanna write a post about it.
how to deal with break ups. noelle's point of view.
truthfully, i might be the worst person you want to get advice from. but yes. sad but proud to say, i've been through alot. uh huh....
so first advice.
cry your heart out. keep crying. it hurts. yes. so just cry. you might want to act strong and shit but trust me. crying do helps. whether if you are a guy or girl. i usually cry for a week. every night. thinking about what i did wrong. or replaying those memories . its normal.
secondly.
spend money. spend money on food. spend money on clothes. spend money on anything that will make you happy or just to take your mind off things for a moment,
i'm usually broke after a break up. i will buy anything that catches my eyes. food especially.
thirdly.
love yourself. dress up. do your nails. dye your hair. put on those heels that you always wanted to wear but never did.
for guys, i guess is to work out. get some abs. think about how to make the person who dumped you regret.
lastly.
never ever ever hurt yourself. dont hurt yourself for someone who is gonna spend their life happily with another person. is not fucking worth it. can you imagine if you really did hurt urself. and you.... i dont know... died? then if..... you became a ghost. and you watch the guy you loved still living the life you always wanted? can you imagine??? CAN YOU??? you must be like, cb... i give you my life and there you are, not feeling sad for me or shit. and the worst part is, you can never turn back time. so dont do something you will regret.
so what have i learned out of those years.
i've learn that, no matter how hurt you are, it will be over someday.
You will never find the right person if you dont let go of the wrong one.
It hurts until it doesn't. you think it's going to break you, but it wont. you may not sleep well at night , but you will. numb but numb and fine are the same.
life is too short to be crying over your ex.
dont. dont stay friends with your ex. you will never move on. and seeing the other person move on will hurt you more. is like dying but still breathing.
“Do not let a man convince you that you are nothing without him, when you have the blood of lionesses running through your veins, a heart that pumps enough iron to create swords and a spine that is stronger than granite. You are everything. With him, without him, never having met him, or with someone else, never forget that you are everything.” - You are Everything, With or Without Him
Hi,
ReplyDeleteI have been reading the your blog and I find your posts about break ups to be helpful to me after reading it. I don't know its because I feel that I can relate to what you were feeling or not. As I had just recently gone through a break up after 4 years of relationship. Just sharing some thoughts about it too.
After my break up, I felt the phrase "love is not through effort" to be kinda true. Since whatever the other person wants, might not be what you have. However, I still believe that when you found the right person. Effort is always needed.
I've just been starting to tell myself to let go, and move on. But it just hurts, no matter what. I guess time will heal the wounds..
Sorry for the weird comment and for wasting your time. But I just want to say thanks, just because reading your posts made me feel better a bit. Good luck and once again. Thanks.
P.S. Are you still baking? Your cakes look awesome.